Everyone loves a clean house, I think. Living with someone who seems to put a clean and orderly house as the highest priority, I see how it shapes my boys, especially my oldest.
Don’t get me wrong, keeping things clean and orderly has it’s place but when it results in your kids losing an element of their childhood because they are too worried to pull out toys and make a mess because they want to please a parent then something needs to change.
Personally, I sense I have lost most of my polish in the last 10 years. Right now, the most polish to my day is my boys’ laughter and joy and soaking up as much of it as possible before orderliness sets back in at the end of the day.
I love the quote above by Erma Bombeck. It’s the reminder to use all the resources and blessings and heartaches that God places in your path to grow, learn, love, laugh and pray. It definitely falls into the line of thought we teach our boys about eating which is, “We do not waste.” God allotted each person 24 hours per day. Those 24 hours represent our currency. How we use it or do not use it reflects in our physical, emotional and spiritual selves.
Today’s Challenge: Do not let your pursuit of Polish distract you from the joys and lessons that the unpolished provide. Use every little bit that you are blessed with and be thankful! It’s too easy to miss those moments.
We all start as children’s books
Simple, basic principles to live by
Bright colors and constant movement
Curiosity driving actions
As age progresses
Colors mix for more options than just red, yellow and blue
Curiosity tempered a bit with caution
Soon, we turn and look behind us
Seeing the colors collide with patterns
Our own thoughts and feelings merging with the world around us
Curiosity assaulted by media of every variety
Choose your path wisely
One try is all we are blessed with
Growing up, I always hated to wear that plaid jumper Uniform to school. The only good thing was that once I got to 6th grade, I knew I would get to upgrade to the skirt and that was way cooler than a stupid jumper.
While it has been “many moons” (thanks Bill Engvall) since I wore that uniform, I realized that we all have uniforms we were that depend on the role we perform for that moment or day. As a stay at home mom, I know my uniform options for the day have fewer restrictions. My only basic requirement is, “Is it clean?” and then follow up for that is, “Just how clean is it?”.
For the working moms like my sister, sister-in-law and best friend, their work uniforms must meet more guidelines since they have to get up every day, run around and get everyone else read while getting themselves ready and trying to make sure when they leave the house that their clothes are presentable and clean because I am pretty sure they do not want a co-worker asking about why their shirt is on backwards, what is that spot on your shoulder, or any other seemingly innocent questions that mean they did not make it out of the house without taking a hit to the clothes.
As a stay at home mom, your children even show they are aware of your uniform by how they respond when you deviate from it.
Sometimes, uniform does not necessarily refer to your clothing but your actions. Certain situations trigger a learned reaction or response, good or bad. You give canned answers to questions like, “How are you today?” or “Nice weather”. The automatic response represents a surface reaction because sometimes the answer to “How are you today” is not a simple OK or fine. It is the furthest thing from it but spouting that out to a stranger is typically not a person’s first reaction.
Today’s Challenge: Make a change to your daily uniform today whether it is a change to your clothing or how you respond to everyday inquiries from co-workers and acquaintances and even family. Take note of how it makes you feel, changes your outlook for the day and if it changes your attitude and mood with those around you.
As someone who could classify herself as someone with a food addiction,
Portion is one of those words that immediately transports me to measuring out, counting and closely eyeballing food items. It’s that effort that means you don’t end up eating the whole package of whatever it is you opened or decided to treat yourself too.
Eating on the sly as I am prone to do only allows for one portioning typically, the whole package. Thinking about this makes me want to expand my challenge to myself. I did a month long challenge with my sister and best friend to do a 1 minute plank every day for thirty days. Today we are starting a 30 day sit up challenge. While the sit up challenge is a healthy physical challenge I am inclined to add the challenge of only eating if I am going to sit down at the kitchen table. I do a lot of standing and snacking and eating as I work from home and chase my 3 boys during the course of the day. It means my eating would inherently become intentional and there would be no more scarfing down of candy bars, cookies or coffee beverages during a car ride that is only 10 minutes long. It adds the benefit of showing my boys that it is important to sit and eat and focus on what you consume instead of just mindlessly standing at the counter in the kitchen and snacking.
The other challenge is thinking of portion outside of the elements of food. We are all entitled to a portion of happiness, challenges, pain, frustration, joy, exasperation, peace and all the emotions in between. How we choose to focus on those emotions and react to them makes up our day.
Today’s Challenge: What emotion are you going to put your focus on? Whatever emotion it is, remember every emotion has a purpose and a function. May your day be filled with more positive emotions than negative and may that be what you remember before you fall asleep.
Shadows of me
Just a whisper on the wind
Feelings of how I used to be and feel
Nothing concrete anymore
No sense of charging ahead into adventure
Just day to day survival
Start at A
Charge forward to B
C comes next
D is not far behind
The energy begins to fade on the way to E
Soon the day fades into F
Keep going forward to G
Hoping H is not far behind
Intently looking to move quickly through I
J, K, L leap right past in the rush of mid afternoon
Pushing quickly through M, N, O, P
O through X is a mystery that melts into the nightly routine
Y is so late in the days journey
To Z, sometimes it seems it never gets asked much less answered.
Soon, the Trace of the day settles
Into the dark of night
You know you made it through
How? you are not sure
You simply know that the journey starts in the morning
Again with A until
Z makes it’s appearance
Today’s Challenge: Enjoy all the little moments that make you feel love, that make you laugh because above all else the trace of that joy and happiness should be what you and your loved ones remember for the day.
It’s been awhile since my last post. There have been a number of things personally that hit the fan. On this side of the last post, I have a beautiful 3 month old little boy who despite being 5 weeks early is as healthy and happy as a 3 month old little boy should be.
I am at that point of reflection that many people hit as they approach an anniversary. For me, that anniversary is the start of this blog for dropping my thoughts on a variety of things. I have missed checking in and doing something just for me. As I approach my year anniversary, I am reflecting back on where I was physically, mentally and spiritually. This reflection just started but my hope is by the time I hit my 1 year anniversary for this blog, I will have truly looked back at where I was, assessed where I am at, and made a decided and committed effort to move towards where I want to be in this next year.
Sounds kind of New Year’s resolution-y but that’s where I am at amid lack of solid sleep, trying to be a better mom and going back to work part time from home while balancing all of the same other things on my plate that were there before.
Today’s Challenge: Remember to take a few deep breaths and pull your ears out of your shoulders. Relax and remember to be patient with yourself. (Thanks to my mom for that reminder. 🙂 )
Lukewarm is that temperature that means your nice, piping hot, fragrant, french vanilla creamer flavored cup of coffee sat to long. Maybe you got busy making breakfast for you and your family, or the simple diaper change for your 1 month old turned into a full out washcloth bath with new clothes plus a new diaper because the projectile spit portion of the day arrived despite your fresh cup of coffee waiting for you. Either way, depending on your mood, that tepid cup of coffee either passes muster and you drink it anyway or you sacrifice it to the kitchen drain because it just doesn’t seem worth the effort and calories of drinking it because it just isn’t right.
Sometimes, you make iced coffee with lukewarm coffee. Depends on the day.
And sometimes, it best describes your mood. Lukewarm describes how you feel about getting anything remotely productive accomplished, how you feel about important relationships with others or with yourself. Sometimes, it’s the mood you get where there really is nothing wrong with anything in your life but you feel like everything is messed up beyond reason, nothing can go right, why bother trying to get anything done when it won’t matter if it’s done or not because whoever may notice the accomplished item will have some criticism of it and if they don’t the negative little monster sitting on your shoulder that hijacked your day will have plenty to say.
Today’s Challenge: Tell that negative shoulder sitting monster to go find somewhere else to be because you have joy, laughter, and fun to invade your mind and control your day.