Something I struggle with and can remember struggling with since I was young, was the sense that things had to be all or nothing. Examples:
- If I am going to exercise, I need to do it all in one session.
- If I am going to open a bag of M&Ms, then I may as well eat all of them.
- If I cannot complete the whole task in one fell swoop, then I need to wait until I have the time to do it all at once.
- One rough/bad/fill in the blank interaction with my boys makes the whole day bad.
Take your pick. While for many, the start of a new calendar year is the chance to change things, make resolutions, start over, I realized that in finally stepping from the shadow my life and I had become in the last 10 years was the start of a my new year.
It was bumpy. It was rocky. It was full of self doubt and self criticism. Self respect had left me for a permanent vacation.
But over the past few months, I slowly let go of the doubt. I try to look at the rockiness as a right now situation not a permanent reflection of my future. The self criticism diminished because I walked away from the voice feeding it.
Self respect is slowly returning from it’s long sabbatical. Thank God for my family and all the come to Jesus moments they provide me.
One of the things that has helped me most is realizing that my exercising does not have to be one long cardio session. Right now, just some basic sets of push ups, crunches and stretching, while it does not seem significant to many, for me it is a little bit of self care that has gone a long way in re-igniting my self respect.
Some other Thank You’s go to Pastor Matt at The Gathering for offering up the Face It Sermon Series:
Listening to his sermon last Sunday was exactly what I needed to hear. One of the things he talked about was how with resolutions everyone wants to add something, like:
- Eating Healthy
- Losing Weight
- Writing a book
But in the push to start a new habit, rebuild a habit or just try something new, we do not think to ask ourselves, what do I need to remove from my life to make this new thing happen. That in and of it’s self was a very condemning moment for me as I have realized that there are so many little bits and pieces of my day that end up in the waste because of my all or nothing mentality.
A second thank you goes to The Hockey Mom Fit Life Blog:
I have been following her blog for awhile. As a mother of three boys, all under 5, reading about how she manages to fit in her boys and husband’s hockey schedules, work and exercise is an inspiration to me. It’s the reminder to me on an almost daily basis that if she can manage to fit all those things into her day, then I can certainly fit 10-15 minutes of simple basic stretching and exercise into my day, even if it is only 5 push ups at a time.
So much of life today is about going non stop and not wanting to miss an opportunity but in the midst of that we miss too much.
Today’s Challenge: Can you Carve out a piece of time for yourself? Pause for as long as you can, whether it is 1 minute or 5 minutes or more. What do you want for yourself? What do you want your life to look like? Set your goals based on that and maybe it means subtracting things from your life instead of adding.